While there’s a lot of different games and apps available now as compared to when you were younger, one thing that technology has really changed is the dating scene. So if you haven’t been dating in a while, be it because you were previously married or just weren’t really interested in having a relationship, once you do start dating again, things might not be how you remember them.
To help you in navigating this new world, here are three tips for starting online dating after a divorce.
Protect Yourself
When you’re dating, you have to open yourself up to the potential for heartbreak. But with online dating, you may be making yourself vulnerable to other potentially damaging things as well.
According to Charlotte Hilton Andersen, a contributor to the Oprah Magazine, some people on dating websites or apps seek to take advantage of those who are new to this way of meeting people. Especially if you’ve just gotten out of a relationship, it’s wise to be careful if you meet someone who seems too perfect, as they may be looking to take advantage of you or control you in your relationship with them. While this isn’t always the case, it is something to be aware of.
Know What Will Make You Happy In Your Next Partner
If you’re just starting to date again after a divorce, you likely have some trauma from that past relationship that you really need to work through before you begin online dating.
As a part of this, Bela Gandhi, a contributor to Today.com, advises that you take a close look at what did or didn’t work in your previous relationships. Then, use this information to think about what attributes in a person would make you happy in a future relationship and with your next partner. This can help you in finding the right person while online dating.
Research Before Reaching Out
With online dating, and a lot of dating in general, so much of your impression or opinion of someone is based on the first look you take of them. But with online dating, you really have to look beyond just their profile picture to know if they’re really worth getting to know.
Ideally, Dr. Andra Brosh, a contributor to DivorceMag.com, recommends that you read a person’s profile very carefully before you reach out to them. Then, you’ll have a good idea of what this person is like and if you’ll actually have more in common than just the initial attraction.
If you’re about to start online dating for the first time after being previously married, consider using the tips mentioned above to help you find the right person to connect with for your next relationship.
